Is it enough just to focus on the positive?
Of course it is easier to be relaxed when we are being positive, and the more relaxed we are, the more we open the door to our connection with the Divine. But when what we want is coming from the ego, the ego tries to use the law of attraction for its own gain, seeing the Universe as its own personal vending machine, where it can put an order in and then focus on being ‘positive’ for long enough so that whatever it wants can flow into its experience. And yes, that works for a while, but the problem with this is that any wishes from the ego will come from a place of fear, a place of lack, and this fear and lack will block our connection with the Divine. So it is not enough just to focus on being positive, we also have to take the time to really feel what it is our soul wants for us, and we feel that by following what lights us up and by staying awake to the signs the Universe is sending to us.
Why surrendering works
When you truly surrender your dreams, wishes and longings to the Universe, you let go of trying to control the outcome, which then allows you to relax so that your ego no longer can control your dream. You let go of the attachment to the form, and instead you trust that something so much better will come your way. And miraculously, the moment you do that, the Divine steps in and works its magic, and amazing opportunities and synchronicities start to flow into your experience – moving you towards your highest good. The Divine will guide you in that direction by sending you signs, ideas and inspiration, and your job is to stay awake. Pay attention. And follow the signs. If you resist here, then your soul will heat up the pressure slightly, making your journey a bit more uncomfortable, until you are ready to listen to the guidance you are given.
Surrender is not when you surrender a goal or a dream, in order for you to engage the Divine’s amazing creating ability, just so you can get what you want. A friend told me she had surrendered her dream relationship to God, but then when she met a man she really liked, she thought God had made a mistake because this man did not have all the specific characteristics she had prayed for (she wanted him to earn a particular salary, be a certain height, drive a specific car, etc.). That is not surrender. Instead this is the ego still trying to use the Universe as its own personal genie.
Surrender is when you fully trust that the Divine knows how to guide you to your highest good, including the right relationship for you, because the Divine, like your soul, knows you. It knows you, so surrender and ask to be guided. Then if something shows up, and you are still not sure, just ask to be given a sign. It is absolutely okay to say to the Universe: ‘You know what, I am a bit thick here. Please show me a sign in such a way that I get an undeniable experience of what is the right path for me. Turn up the volume on my guidance so I can hear, see, feel it and just know what your message is.’
Once when I did this, I was actually driving my car, on my way to a clinic I was working in. I was not sure if this clinic was the right fit for me, but it was in an area we wanted to live in. As I was driving to the clinic, I prayed and asked the Divine: ‘Please show me what is the highest good for all of us here. Let me know if this is the right path for me, and for my family.’ Then that day, I had the most awful experience with the practice manager at the clinic, something that has never happened to me before, and on my way home the motorway was closed, making my journey more than four hours longer than normal. And for the last hour of the drive back home, one of the wheels in my car started screeching really loudly. As I finally parked my car outside my house I said to God: ‘Okay I get it. I am not meant to be in this clinic.’ I then went inside the house to let my husband know that there was something wrong with my car. We took it out for a drive – and not a sound. It ran beautifully. Since I had finally understood the message from the Universe, even my car was silent.
The next day I handed in my notice, and about a month later a new opportunity came into my life, an opportunity to go in as partner in a beautiful clinic in the Cotswolds. It was a miracle, which I believe could only happen when I finally let go of what I thought I wanted, and instead let the Divine guide me to my highest good.
This is because the moment you surrender, you allow your highest good to flow into your life – so all that is not in alignment with your highest good will start to fall away. If you are meant to change direction, your soul will make it very clear to you that the time is now here for you to make some changes. If you choose not to listen, it will turn up the volume – and instead of sending you tiny whispers, expect a hurricane.